Why on earth would anyone choose to be Facebook friends with someone they don’t know? You share a few mutual friends? You think they’re cute? You’re just collecting people to make yourself look virtually popular? Whatever the reason may be, I’m not talking about just any old generic Facebook friend request. I’m talking about the friendship request that comes from someone you’ve just started dating or haven’t even gone out with yet but somehow get a request from. Why would you want to be FB friends with someone you’re just starting to get to know?
I mean, I’m not one to deny that I Google the guy or even try to find him on FB before the date just to get a feel for who they are, their friends, what they’ve been doing with their life or even how recently they’ve become single. But asking someone to be FB friends even before getting to know them in person is like gaining access to some sort of top-secret vault. I don’t always want the men I’m “dating” to know everything I say and do on there and pre-judge me for it. Heaven forbid they see into this world I’ve so carefully crafted for myself. I’m talking about my Facebook world, where you only post what you want others to see.
Nothing good can come from being FB friends with people you’re not exclusively dating. Recently, I had a date with a guy and texted him the next day saying thank you (as one does to be polite) and didn’t hear back from him so, naturally, I just assumed he had moved on. Hey, It happens. However, a couple hours later, while trolling FB, I see that he clearly had seen my text because he was using his phone to tag where he was at that very moment. What?! If you were ignoring someone’s text shouldn’t you not let them see that you’re in fact ignoring them by posting via your phone onto a public site? And if you wanted to ignore them, then why in the world would you ask them to be FB friends in the first place? What’s the agenda here? Anyways, he ended up texting me about 5 hours after the fact with something very vague - Which, in girl language, is the equivalent of saying "Don't call us, we'll call you."
Now I’m put in an awkward position. Not really knowing the probability of this working out, do I de-friend him and make it blatantly obvious and final or simply unsubscribe from him as to not be so blunt about it? What’s a girl to do? Was I supposed to not accept the initial friend request? How would that have looked? Is a FB friend request now a prerequisite to dating? And if you’re not into someone, do you just ignore them and hope they just fade away or tell them flat out that you’re just not into them? Should that message be in FB form or something? And why is FB such a huge part of dating all of a sudden?
I think I’m going to have to ask my Facebook friends about this…
I mean, I’m not one to deny that I Google the guy or even try to find him on FB before the date just to get a feel for who they are, their friends, what they’ve been doing with their life or even how recently they’ve become single. But asking someone to be FB friends even before getting to know them in person is like gaining access to some sort of top-secret vault. I don’t always want the men I’m “dating” to know everything I say and do on there and pre-judge me for it. Heaven forbid they see into this world I’ve so carefully crafted for myself. I’m talking about my Facebook world, where you only post what you want others to see.
Nothing good can come from being FB friends with people you’re not exclusively dating. Recently, I had a date with a guy and texted him the next day saying thank you (as one does to be polite) and didn’t hear back from him so, naturally, I just assumed he had moved on. Hey, It happens. However, a couple hours later, while trolling FB, I see that he clearly had seen my text because he was using his phone to tag where he was at that very moment. What?! If you were ignoring someone’s text shouldn’t you not let them see that you’re in fact ignoring them by posting via your phone onto a public site? And if you wanted to ignore them, then why in the world would you ask them to be FB friends in the first place? What’s the agenda here? Anyways, he ended up texting me about 5 hours after the fact with something very vague - Which, in girl language, is the equivalent of saying "Don't call us, we'll call you."
Now I’m put in an awkward position. Not really knowing the probability of this working out, do I de-friend him and make it blatantly obvious and final or simply unsubscribe from him as to not be so blunt about it? What’s a girl to do? Was I supposed to not accept the initial friend request? How would that have looked? Is a FB friend request now a prerequisite to dating? And if you’re not into someone, do you just ignore them and hope they just fade away or tell them flat out that you’re just not into them? Should that message be in FB form or something? And why is FB such a huge part of dating all of a sudden?
I think I’m going to have to ask my Facebook friends about this…
