Dating sucks!
I hate dating!
In fact, it's probably safe to say that no one really likes dating. I think what most people are attracted to is the possibility of something developing from the initial date instead of the actual act itself. It's a small glimmer of hope that we hold on to on the off chance that the stars align and the person we're sitting across from, or next to is The One. This thought and this thought alone is what keeps most people going on this overwhelming, perplexing, and incredibly awkward journey.
Hey, dating is tough. But what if it didn't have to be? What if we could skip all of that nonsense and superficial jabber and just get right down to it? Are we the right match? I mean, wouldn't it be easier if we just lined up a bunch of promising candidates, read their resumes and then chose from there? Now, this resume wouldn't be just any resume - it would be a dating history resume. One on which you'd have a list of all past relationships, why they ended, and of course an option to reference their exes to get a more in-depth explanation. What if we could just simply sit behind a table with our closest friends and audition potential mates on the other side as if auditioning for a show?
Casting Notice: Tall, Handsome, and Funny! All who qualify - Open Call! Please bring a headshot and resume.
(We will be type-casting)
Since I've been in The Biz for the past 20 years and have experienced my fair share of auditions. How could I NOT compare the two? Dating IS auditioning. Let's break this down for a second. In an audition, you are judged on several things: Your overall look (physical attraction), the talent you possess (what you can offer them), and whether or not the casting team/director likes you (over-all chemistry). If they do like you and feel they can work with you - you get a callback (the second date). If after the second callback (or date) they feel you are worth pursuing then you'll be invited back a third, fourth and in some circumstances a fifth time. All are designed to assess if they want to commit to you for the duration of a show (blissful marital union). It's a very simple process that sometimes lasts a matter of minutes and yet forces you on this emotional rollercoaster of excitement, self-doubt, and severe PT (Poopy Tummy).
My friends and the people who know me best would tell you that I'm no serial dater. I choose carefully and have extremely strict standards for what men I choose to spend my time with. Hence why I'm still single. Even though many would argue that the ever-popular dating sites such as Match, eHarmony, OkCupid, etc., act as a form of initial dating audition, they are in fact just a cluster-mess of all types of randoms who "ignore" the qualities you've stated you're looking for on your profile and flood your inbox with emails that are more insulting to your emotional psyche than anything else. It's like an aquarium of people you have to sift through to find the good ones worthy of being caught. Don't get me wrong, though, there ARE some good ones out there. You just have to make sure you cast your fishing line the exact time they want to be caught otherwise there will be a massive struggle.
I've been on several dates thus far and each one only reminds me of how much further I have to go. I've dated old guy, insecure guy, unstable guy, obsessed guy, foreign guy, thinks-he's-funnier-than-he-is guy and then some. Why was I under the impression that this would be easy and dare I say it... fun?! Why not make it easier on everyone and skip all the pleasantries and audition potential mates using your ideal physical trait checklist and past dating stats? If only it were that easy.
Is it possible to make finding the right mate as simple as a mathematical equation? And if it were a mathematical equation would it look like this: Timing + Opportunity = Marriage? But how do you know when the timing is right? And if it’s the right timing for you, what if it's not for him? It's all very confusing and incredibly frustrating at times. If only I knew when this part would actually END then I could really start enjoying this process a little more."
Until then... NEXT!!
I hate dating!
In fact, it's probably safe to say that no one really likes dating. I think what most people are attracted to is the possibility of something developing from the initial date instead of the actual act itself. It's a small glimmer of hope that we hold on to on the off chance that the stars align and the person we're sitting across from, or next to is The One. This thought and this thought alone is what keeps most people going on this overwhelming, perplexing, and incredibly awkward journey.
Hey, dating is tough. But what if it didn't have to be? What if we could skip all of that nonsense and superficial jabber and just get right down to it? Are we the right match? I mean, wouldn't it be easier if we just lined up a bunch of promising candidates, read their resumes and then chose from there? Now, this resume wouldn't be just any resume - it would be a dating history resume. One on which you'd have a list of all past relationships, why they ended, and of course an option to reference their exes to get a more in-depth explanation. What if we could just simply sit behind a table with our closest friends and audition potential mates on the other side as if auditioning for a show?
Casting Notice: Tall, Handsome, and Funny! All who qualify - Open Call! Please bring a headshot and resume.
(We will be type-casting)
Since I've been in The Biz for the past 20 years and have experienced my fair share of auditions. How could I NOT compare the two? Dating IS auditioning. Let's break this down for a second. In an audition, you are judged on several things: Your overall look (physical attraction), the talent you possess (what you can offer them), and whether or not the casting team/director likes you (over-all chemistry). If they do like you and feel they can work with you - you get a callback (the second date). If after the second callback (or date) they feel you are worth pursuing then you'll be invited back a third, fourth and in some circumstances a fifth time. All are designed to assess if they want to commit to you for the duration of a show (blissful marital union). It's a very simple process that sometimes lasts a matter of minutes and yet forces you on this emotional rollercoaster of excitement, self-doubt, and severe PT (Poopy Tummy).
My friends and the people who know me best would tell you that I'm no serial dater. I choose carefully and have extremely strict standards for what men I choose to spend my time with. Hence why I'm still single. Even though many would argue that the ever-popular dating sites such as Match, eHarmony, OkCupid, etc., act as a form of initial dating audition, they are in fact just a cluster-mess of all types of randoms who "ignore" the qualities you've stated you're looking for on your profile and flood your inbox with emails that are more insulting to your emotional psyche than anything else. It's like an aquarium of people you have to sift through to find the good ones worthy of being caught. Don't get me wrong, though, there ARE some good ones out there. You just have to make sure you cast your fishing line the exact time they want to be caught otherwise there will be a massive struggle.
I've been on several dates thus far and each one only reminds me of how much further I have to go. I've dated old guy, insecure guy, unstable guy, obsessed guy, foreign guy, thinks-he's-funnier-than-he-is guy and then some. Why was I under the impression that this would be easy and dare I say it... fun?! Why not make it easier on everyone and skip all the pleasantries and audition potential mates using your ideal physical trait checklist and past dating stats? If only it were that easy.
Is it possible to make finding the right mate as simple as a mathematical equation? And if it were a mathematical equation would it look like this: Timing + Opportunity = Marriage? But how do you know when the timing is right? And if it’s the right timing for you, what if it's not for him? It's all very confusing and incredibly frustrating at times. If only I knew when this part would actually END then I could really start enjoying this process a little more."
Until then... NEXT!!